Well, well, well. The time has come for me to make a proclamation. Internet Gangsters- our society has no need for you.
Thanks. End of Blog.
Kidding, obviously. I am gonna write more about it. Let me start at the beginning. Being a writer is hard. Actually, putting your craft out in a public forum is hard. So if you don’t do that – read and learn. Because everyone, in some form or fashion, does something – that others could make fun of. But not everyone, does something in the public eye. Especially, the very public eye on the internet. Every time I put up a blog post, I run the risk of being ridiculed. Anytime, a You Tuber posts a video, they are putting their craft out there. An artist showing their work. A singer posting a video or sound cloud of them singing, everyone becomes a Simon Cowell. Now, do we know that we are putting ourselves out there to be reidiculed? Of course. But we do it anyway. Why? Because we are sharing.
And that, my friends, is courageous. Any time someone is vulnerable, they leave themselves open for ridicule. And choosing to be vulnerable anyway, well, that’s freaking awesome to me.
And what I WILL NOT DO – is ever, never, ever – make fun of someone being courageous. Why would you? Aren’t we all humans doing this life thing, together?
Here is what I do with opinions that are different than mine- I keep scrolling. If I see a video that I don’t like? I keep scrolling. And let me get this really clear – I am not talking about people who have a different opinion, profess it eloquently, without just being mean. I am talking about the people who literally just say things to be mean.
If you read this blog, which I guess you do since you are here, I have it set to where I have to approve comments. I do that, because years ago, I didn’t. Someone left a comment, and although they were being super sweet, they used language that I wasn’t a huge fan of. I mean, if you curse you curse – I ain’t judging. I just don’t want it typed out on my page. My momma and kids read this blog.
I digress. Well, on the blog post about being a widow, I got a lot of great feedback. I receeived so many sweet comments! People sent me emails of encouragement. They left super amazing comments and asked for advice on Facebook. And I also got the internet gangster comment. This obviously, was deleted by me. But now, I wish I hadn’t.
It said this. “Widowed young with kids, huh? I wonder if that is really true. You are probably just another pretty face hired by corporate America where someone else is writing this bulls*** to make money. And if it’s true – and least you had f-ing kids and f-ing family. Some people don’t have anybody.”
Hmmmmm. Insert blind rage right here. FYI – they were “anonymous”. Chicken.
Anyway. I cried for a minute. It hurt my feelings. I thought, how in the world, when I am trying to help people, can people be so ugly? I mean, obviously, what I write is true. Google me, jackhole. It’s not rocket science. And then it hit me. So this part, is for that person.
Dear Internet Gangster,
Thank you, anonymous. First, I appreciate the fact that you called me pretty. A really talented photographer took the photos you see. I am so grateful for his skill and showing what I wanted the world to see! Second, thank you for being so mean. If I have people that don’t like what I am doing, that means I am spreading my message outside my regular folks, and my comfort zone. That is a sign that I am succeeding – and I am so grateful for that. Third, although we all say, you can’t please everyone – I think a lot of us still want to. So this was a big lesson for me also. And I realize now, I can’t please you. And that’s okay. Fourth, a couple years ago, that comment would have made me quit writing. Now, I just used it for material. And yes, internet gangster – I have called you names in this post. Why? Because, well – I am still human. You are still a bully. And it was rude. And, I thought calling you names would make me feel better. It really didn’t.
That being said. You are hurt, and I see it. So now, I am going to do the thing that is for real the hardest for me. I am going to pray for you – and the other Internet Gangsters out there, who are struggling like you are. You are obviously lashing out in anger, in a forum of being anonymous – because maybe, you don’t have people to talk to. And if lashing out at me makes you feel better? Bring it. I can take it. I mean, read my blog. I’ve been through worse. A lot worse. I am also a lot stronger and a whole lot braver than you gave me credit for. So, good luck homie. And keep your anonymous comments coming.
Love Fully. Live Fully. Shine on.
So there we have it. Donezo. Now, if you are part of this cruelty culture that we apparently are cultivating on the internet, think about if you would actually say it in front of the person. You might would.
Think about this. If you wouldn’t want them to say it about your work, you, or your family – think again before you comment. Then ask yourself, why do you feel compelled to comment? To belittle another human? To make yourself feel better? What is the reason? If it isn’t for personal growth of that other person, then don’t. I am all up for positive critiquing. Even a well-spoken opinion. But if you are doing it, just to make yourself feel good an/or belittle another human – Well, grow up.
Some of us, want to bring others happiness. Be part of that culture.
Love Fully. Live Fully. Shine On. Sat nam.