After 5 years, What is Happiness?

I don’t have the answer to my own question. 

The only answer I have is “Me”.  I’m really happy.  And as I type this, I am crying a little.  So, there ya have it.  You can cry and still be totally happy.  But I am not crying in mourning, per se.  It still breaks my heart for the girl that used to be.  I am not her anymore, though.

Five years ago…
I woke up.  Like everyday.  Walked downstairs – and had no idea that my whole life had changed.
I screamed and cried until I had no voice.
Everything felt like it was crashing down.  I was so scared… and then the pain and anguish hit.  I didn’t see an end.  I saw every single “future memories” that would never happen together.  It lasted a really long time.

Now…
I woke up.  Like everyday.  And I smiled. I sang a little gangsta rap/reggae as I got ready.  I am happy. 
I am loved.  I have great friends.  Great family.  And God has healed that broken and seared mess that used to be my heart.  I feel optimistic.  I plan.  I enjoy every breath.  Every single minute.  And I sit back in awe, at the fact that my life is where it is.  And I feel joyful for that.

The people who know me, here in Florida, never met that girl.  That don’t define me by the things she went through.  They just know “this me”.  And sometimes, I am thankful for that.  But sometimes, I wish they knew her, too.  Just to see how far I’ve come.  And understand, why I am who I am.

I make it a point to hug people who need it.  Smile.  Laugh.  And enjoy every minute I can.  God has been so faithful to me.  There’s a song by Stephen Curtiss Chapman, that says “When you give and when You take away,  even then great is your faithfulness”.  I couldn’t be a better representation of that.  And I know I don’t deserve it, but I am thankful for it. 

I know this journey isn’t over.  And it never will be.  But today, I feel like I am cruising at a good speed in a great car – and enjoying the drive. 

I never planned my life to be this hard.  Have these problems.  But I am grateful for who I am now because of them.

5 Comments Add yours

  1. Unknown says:

    After 1 year I feel so lonely and my life seems to have no purpose. Please tell me when I will find joy and a reason to get out of the bed each morning.

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  2. Kristie, I lost my husband 2 yrs & 3 months ago. Tomorrow is his 56th birthday & I feel like I'm dying with my husband all over again! I have no friends, as they all dumped me after my husband died & my supposed best friend & family stole all my life insurance money while I was in bed mourning! When & will I ever be happy again Kristie? Still, after 2 yrs it doesn't feel like it??? I do have to say, I am so happy for you & you give me so much hope!! God Bless you Kristie!!!

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  3. I don't want you to think I am not answering. But I need to think before I make a reply. I first want you to know… I am praying for you. And you will. I know that. 💔

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  4. I know. And I remember those days. And I hated it so much when people would say, \”It gets better with time.\” It isn't that it gets better. It doesn't per se. We don't forget – We don't ever stop missing. But. You it changes. You have a new normal now. But here is what I ask you to do. Think of what he would want. He wouldn't want you to be bed ridden. So honor him. Make yourself a challenge. Find 10 beautiful things each day. And take a picture of it. And look through those. And pray. Pray a lot. And let me know if you need me. I am here.

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  5. You are precious. And there are times where I felt the same way. There will be times where you feel overwhelmed. Completely. But you have a destiny – that will be amazing. You went through a horrible event. Now is the process time. Where you learn. You learn to cope. And through the process – you learn happiness. Give yourself time. I know you will find your happiness. I am sure. If you need anything. Let me know.

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